Jul 02, 2015
Jul 02, 2015
Which do you choose?
This past week brought with it a myriad of major news stories catalyzing topics that clearly demonstrate a polarity of opinion, belief and choice from our citizens. The Supreme Court upholding the Affordable Care Act and legalizing gay marriage for the entire nation, as incredibly powerful and uplifting the decisions were, pale when viewed against the backdrop of yet another mass killing at the hands of a twenty-one-year-old, hate-filled racist in Charleston, S.C. And embedded in these issues are deeply held belief systems, historically passed along from generation to generation, that demonstrate just how severe the rift between those on the right from those on the left, conservatives vs. progressives, elite vs. everyone else and unfortunately, the North vs. the South is in shadows of a continuing Civil War.
How many racists view gay marriage as an abomination? Do supporters of flying the confederate flag actively support the LGBT movement? Are left-wing liberals supportive of the 2nd Amendment or the rights of KKK members to march and picket? In all these issues and more, we tend to take a position and stand by it relentlessly, unable to see others’ opinions and beliefs. When viewed this way, choice becomes very narrow.
Putting aside for a moment the uncovering of the two justice systems in our country, let us rejoice in the Supreme Court declaring that all our citizens, straight and gay, can now live with, love and marry whomever they want, affording our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters the legal rights associated with marriage. This polarized evolution over the past decade portends optimism and forward momentum. But are we able to bend enough to acknowledge and find room for differences of opinions?
Here are 5 tips that can transform hardline, uncompromising stands moving us from dark to light:
The choice is yours to make. I choose light and love.
Jun 28, 2015
(Throwing away your watch! Showing up for your life! Time is not what you think!)Time to rise, time to act, time to get going, time to leave, ...
Jun 28, 2015
(Throwing away your watch! Showing up for your life! Time is not what you think!)
Time to rise, time to act, time to get going, time to leave, time to move, time to decide that this thing we call time is not real. Can you touch it? Yes, our world operates from a time clock, minutes, seconds, hours, time for dinner, time to fight, time to apologize, time to plant, time to harvest, time, time and more time, yet not enough time.
Why are we so caught up in time? Are we simply operating from a point of contextual organization, a construct that gives meaning to living as a human being? Did the ancients understand this concept differently, whereby the human condition was in sync and cooperative with nature and the greater universe? And how have we devolved so harshly to live our lives caught in the paradox of time and its limitations.
Perhaps the grandest paradox is the collective psychosis of continually wanting more, yet operating in a world limited by twenty-four hours in a day, 7-days a week and 365 days in a year. We purchase cable channels only to have enough time to view a handful. People go on a week’s vacation to visit four European countries, six cities, multiple side tours and come home exhausted, needing another vacation to recover. How much can we cram into an hour, a day or a week? Our incessant need to keep up with the newest Apple product creates an individual and collective malaise of never being satisfied, never feeling calm and always needing something else.
We order reality based on limitations attached to the clock. 6:00am, the alarm buzzes. Ready, set; go– off to the races. Teachers teach to the bell. Workers work forty-hours a week, Monday through Friday. Trains, planes, rush hour traffic, buses all run according to schedules. Tuesdays are spaghetti nights, while Fridays are pizza nights. We schedule time for lovemaking. Weekends are for sports viewing, beer drinking and Sunday hangovers. And then– it’s right back into the tick-tock of our ordered chaos with its perpetual disharmony of never having or being enough.
Order is necessary, but are we living in a world that demands something more relevant than the limitations of time? If so, what would this new reality be? Here are a few suggestions to help us wake up:
Now is the time to stop the train of unconsciousness by turning off the autopilot and waking up. There is ample time for everything we need and want!
Jun 28, 2015
Jun 28, 2015
In a scene from House of Cards, First Lady, Claire Underwood, is going door to door for her husband’s campaign. She meets a woman holding a baby in her arms looking tired and disheveled.
Hearing the woman state that she would not be voting for Underwood, Claire asked to speak privately. The mother shares details of her husband’s extramarital flings and fantasizes about suffocating her infant with a pillow and being free again.
As challenging and reprehensible as this dialogue is, it reflects a level of honesty that many new parents might share at times when their child cries incessantly or struggles to sleep soundly at night.
Might I suggest not following this course of action but rather exploring facets of parenting that are illuminating. Yes parents, time to wake up and smell the hot chocolate! If I only knew then what I know now I may have chosen parenting options differently. So, what are some of the conscious choices we can make in parenting our children?
10 parenting options:
The hot chocolate is waiting for you!